The formula for building confidence, indeed for bringing about any personal change, has five elements.
First, develop self-awareness: know yourself, acknowledge that there are aspects of yourself that you wish to change, and understand what has stopped you feeling confident so far.
Then apply the I-T-I-A Formula© (pronounced eye-tea-ah):
■ Assert your intention to be confident, and make a commitment.
■ Change your thinking. This includes changing restrictive attitudes and beliefs.
■ Use your imagination. Imagine yourself as a confident person.
■ Act as if you are already confident. The more you speak and behave confidently, the more confident you will become.
All four parts of the I-T-I-A Formula© are essential, otherwise the change is unlikely to be permanent, or worse, nothing may change at all.
If this sounds a little daunting, don’t worry – this entire programme is designed around these five elements – self-awareness, intention, thinking, imagination and acting ‘as if ’. You will be introduced to them in small, practical steps to make it as easy as possible for you. All I ask is that you apply what you learn, stick with it and be patient. Entrenched habits don’t change overnight.
Source : 365 Steps to Self Confidence. David Lawrence Preston